Tuesday, May 19, 2009

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  1. It's not that you want to much, or even that your expectations are high. It is that he is a man, and he will never be exactly what you think you want, he is a man and he lacks certain qualities because of this. It is not his fault, because he is a man. The choice then becomes yours. You can love him for who and what he is, knowing he will never fully comply with your list, or you can choose not to. But changing a person is impossible and wrong. You also have to understand, and I would love to share this cd with you, that men and women truly think of the same things in different ways. If you don't understand that different view, you are incapable of understanding, or forgiving them for the way that they are. I know you are not saying that he is, "Inadequate" by listing his flaws according to your list is a bit critical, would you like to see such a list on you, and how might it make you feel? A relationship should be one of trust, respect, communication, and unconditional love, not conditional. It should not be a trial, or test. You need to really decide how committed you are to the relationship. Marriage can be a wonderful thing, but that means it has to be with the right person. Don't talk yourself into marriage, feel it, know it. Can you love him regardless of his flaws? If you can then when you are both ready, the next step can be taken. If not, if they are a problem, you have to realize they will never change and go from there.

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  2. I didn't mean it as critical of Mike. I just was saying he isn't perfect (which is fine and normal because no one is perfect) and I don't expect Mike to be perfect, as well as rehashing my list for my own benefit. It was mostly for me to write to get thoughts out of my head.

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